I’m going to start off with a somewhat controversial thought:
What if we stopped focusing on our own needs and shifted our attention, completely and fully, to the needs of our partner?
This can be life changing. I promise. The more you attune to the needs of the other person, the deeper yours will be met.
THIS BOOK. It’s convicting.
If you want to better a relationship or your marriage, then do yourself a favor and read this! Instead of an expensive gift for Valentine’s Day….take time to read through these pages to learn what your significant other REALLY needs to feel loved, respected, and valued!
I read For Women Only for the very first time right after I got married 10 years ago. And I’m currently reading through it again. Both times I’ve found myself highlighting and underlining the very same things. There was/is so much that I DID NOT realize or fully understand when it comes to how a MAN feels loved and appreciated. For so long, I would do things, inadvertently, the way that I PERSONALLY feel most valued and loved.
This book highlights, that the more we understand the men in our lives, the better we can support and love them in the way they need! As a fair warning, some of the content may stir up some questions or feelings of uncertainty. This is GOOD. Let them stir your heart to dig deeper. Here are just a FEW snippets of from this book that were noteworthy:
- Your RESPECT means more to him than your affection! If a man feels disrespected, he will feel unloved. Respect his judgements. Respect his abilities. Respect him through your communication.
- AFFIRMATION is everything! When a man feels affirmed, he can conquer the world. Home is the most important place to receive affirmation. You need to be their number one source of encouragement. We have the power to better their self confidence, making them believe they can slay dragons!
- There is a powerful internal drive to PROVIDE. Being a provider appears to be at the core of a man’s identity, as a male and person of worth. Men feel powerful when they provide and want to be depended on.
- Men are visually wired and seek to be DESIRED. Spend your energy helping him fight the temptations of culture instead of fighting HIM! Make him feel important. Do everything in your power, in words and actions, to help your partner understand that you LOVE to love him.
While this is a christian, faith based book, I genuinely feel the information within these pages are useful and valuable to everyone, regardless of your spiritual beliefs! The author does state there are some generalizations, but a majority of the findings come from research and studies conducted. Sometimes, information that stirs something in your mind or body, doesn’t mean it’s incorrect or wrong. If anything, it’s worth looking into further! I know that when the tough topics come up, ones that may make me initially cringe or want to disagree, these are often the very ones that breed the most truth and conviction! I sure hope you allow yourself to be open to what is being shared and allow it to transform the way you interact and love the MAN/WOMAN in your life!
Instead of the random, last minute gift or something that might hold lesser meaning and value, go out and read this book prior to Valentine’s Day. Apply the knowledge you learned and start changing the way you love, respect, and affirm your man! They will thank you for it!
Oh, and buy a copy for your man to read, too….FOR MEN ONLY, so you can benefit, too! After all, every relationship takes two to tango!
